He showed up in my yard summer 2020, asking for help, so I gave him food. He was really timid back then, but I gave him food and patience, and as time wore on, his flight distance kept decreasing until I could finally pet him while he was eating. Wasn’t long after that he started coming inside occasionally, but he’d get anxious if I closed the door behind him. I’d catch him sleeping in my bed sometimes. Now he’s there almost every night.
Unlike all previous guest kitties, Rao is friendly towards my cats (although the feeling is not mutual), so there’s no reason he can’t just stay here.
He must have had a home as a kitten, though, as he is completely socialized. But he is not neutered and he doesn’t have a microchip, so whoever had him before has probably abandoned him. Or I could have accidentally stolen someone’s cat I guess.
no one wants to hear it but love is earned after the initial infatuation. commitment is something u both mutually agree to and then from there it’s work. it’s not work like it’s a chore it’s jus work like it takes effort. to get good at these things takes practice. it takes practice to learn to communicate better and it takes practice to learn to love each other in the ways u need to be loved.
And it’s also terrifying! Like it’s the kind of vulnerability you can’t do while being all cool and in control of things, you have to like open up the really awkward, ugly inner part of yourself and hope that the other person is still into you.
Like you have to actually say – with words coming out of your mouth or hands or whatever way you use to directly communicate in person – what you would like from the other person! You have to say stuff like “hey the thing you did made me feel some ways and we have to address this like adults” and hope that the other person says “I see, yes I also think we should address this like adults” (instead of “no I didn’t” or “you’re overreacting” or other shut-down-ing shit that ruins lives).
this post hasn’t left my mind since i’ve first saw it
people jest but this is literally how i worked out i was gaslit for like 15 years of my life
People who “want trauma” are recognizing, on some level, that they were traumatized but in a way that’s not “socially recognized” as trauma. What they really want is for people to see that they’ve been traumatized and be on their side
I wanna expand on that for a moment. I’ve talked to a lot of trauma survivors about their backgrounds. And two things that are damn near universally true?
1. We almost all say “It wasn’t that bad” at first. 2. That statement is pretty much always a lie, be it to others or to yourself.
By the way, it’s also common for people with mental illnesses (including ptsd) to “wish” they were suffering from a physical illness such as cancer— because then they’d get some kind of acknowledgement that their body was hurting them in a way they could not control.
This can also be part of the motivation behind self harm. It’s an attempt to “prove” the seriousness of the mental or emotional damage by causing it to manifest into something with equally serious physical symptoms.
It makes me so angry that people think that children cannot be mentally ill … they’re little human beings with the same exact emotions as adults, they just have smaller bodies.
It isn’t that far fetched. His mom is amazing for being there for him.
hold on a fucking second. delaware is a state?? i thought it was a river? or is the river more important than the state? why don’t i know this? (i should mention i don’t like in america, i’m just confused)
the rive is a monster that spans new york, pennsylvania, new jersey and delaware. also washington crossed it once and that was like kinda a big deal i guess. like crossing the rubicon in rome.
the state tries to me more important with its “im the first state!!!” bs (seriously its even on the fucking license plates) but we all know. its the river.
THATS TUPPERWARE
i thought delaware was a place in ohio? why are there so many things named delaware?
delaware is too powerful
what the fuck
Wait what? I thought Delaware was a store with building supplies. Like paint, wood, nails and stuff?
THATS HOME DEPOT ???
I know home depot, but dude I don’t know anything about America mad have never been there. Are you sure there is not a some sort of store called something close to Delaware!?!
…..ace hardware….?
this post has only been around for a few hours but could very well be a world heritage post
but at what cost
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he WHAT? i thought he was from. w. wait. ???
delaware stole the presidents shoelaces for clout and became too powerful
From the UK- and what do you mean Delaware isn’t a type of ceramic?
